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pratik
pratik
Yesterday my dad threatened to commit suicide and said he would write in his suicide note that I should be held responsible for all the “mental torture and domestic violence.” He then also added that he wanted to disown me and wanted me to get out of the house immediately and fly back t... microblog.pratikmhatre.com
mbkriegh
mbkriegh

@pratik sorry to hear about your dad's treatment of you. My dad died last year. The anniversary was apparently a couple of days ago. I could care less. He treated me horribly for most of my adult life. I left many possible openings for a relationship. He never stepped through them. It's not that I don't think of him from time to time. I do, and not always in a negative light. But family life is much easier without him around. I haven't missed him a bit. I am also really sorry about your mom. That's tough. I don't know what your father's relationship with your mom is, but I suppose it's possible that anger over loosing her is getting focused in other directions. Might make his behavior somewhat understandable if not excusable.

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odd
odd

@pratik I am sorry you have to deal with these mood swings and irrational behavior, especially when you are just trying to help your parents. We often hear about ungrateful kids, but ungrateful parents are also a thing. Really hope he’ll turn around and face that he’s in need of your care, and should be thankful for all you’ve done. (Maybe losing the authority and autonomy is part of why this behavior manifests(?))…

Before I had to tread lightly to please my father, but now he usually is very thankful for what I manage to do for him and my mother. (I still have not had to rush over there). He is still somewhat impatient and negative sometimes, but seldom irrational.

maique
maique

@pratik I can’t even imagine how hard it must be to deal with this, on top of everything else that is going on with your mother. I sincerely hope your dad realizes how much you’re helping, and eases a little. Stay strong, sir.

toddgrotenhuis
toddgrotenhuis

@pratik yikes, I’m so sorry

parag
parag

@pratik oh man! I have no words to express my feelings and support. Saying words like “be strong” doesn’t cut it. I thought this kind of stuff only happens in fiction. Can’t imagine that you are dealing with it in real life.

supremus
supremus

@pratik I am so sorry you are having to go through this.

jean
jean

@pratik I am so sorry you have to cope with this treatment in addition to everything else. I am holding a thought for you all.

JMaxB
JMaxB

@pratik Very, very painful. My mother also lost her marbles somewhat in her last days, though maybe not this extremely. Rationally the answer is, recognize this as mental deterioration and put it in the context of the whole life. When it's right in front of us, though, the rational answers don't seem to help, do they?

Miraz
Miraz

@pratik Oh Pratik! I'm so sorry to hear this is so complex and so immensely difficult for you. I'm glad your brother was nearby to help. In Aotearoa New Zealand we say "Kia kaha!" which means be / stay strong!

nitinkhanna
nitinkhanna

@pratik on the question or how’s my relationship with my Dad - strained, nowadays. So it goes.

wrenman
wrenman

@pratik holy shit I'm sorry man. yeah nothing much to say here other than comfort yourself with telling yourself it is what it is and just carry on and treat this as one of those things you just can't do shit about

Munish
Munish

@pratik so sorry to hear this. You are dealing with a lot and this reaction cannot be easy to deal with. From what I have seen from your posts, you are an open, caring and love to share your thoughts. It is good you are sharing your experiences, it will help to address them mentally and move forward. We are all here for you 🙏🏽

Gaby
Gaby

@pratik I am so very sorry, this is rough!

pratik
pratik

@Munish @gaby @pimoore Thanks and I really appreciate y'alls thoughts. You're right that I find penning down my current thoughts publicly cathartic. But also, hopefully someone in a similar situation (hopefully not) in the future may not feel alone. My wife is there for me and we talk a lot (maybe more than when we are at home) but it's a different feeling to write it out.

Munish
Munish

@pratik we are here for you. Hopefully, things will get better 👌🏽🙏🏽