@pratik sorry to hear about your dad’s treatment of you. My dad died last year. The anniversary was apparently a couple of days ago. I could care less. He treated me horribly for most of my adult life. I left many possible openings for a relationship. He never stepped through them. It’s not that I don’t think of him from time to time. I do, and not always in a negative light. But family life is much easier without him around. I haven’t missed him a bit. I am also really sorry about your mom. That’s tough. I don’t know what your father’s relationship with your mom is, but I suppose it’s possible that anger over loosing her is getting focused in other directions. Might make his behavior somewhat understandable if not excusable.
@pratik I am sorry you have to deal with these mood swings and irrational behavior, especially when you are just trying to help your parents. We often hear about ungrateful kids, but ungrateful parents are also a thing. Really hope he’ll turn around and face that he’s in need of your care, and should be thankful for all you’ve done. (Maybe losing the authority and autonomy is part of why this behavior manifests(?))…
Before I had to tread lightly to please my father, but now he usually is very thankful for what I manage to do for him and my mother. (I still have not had to rush over there). He is still somewhat impatient and negative sometimes, but seldom irrational.
@pratik yikes, I’m so sorry
@pratik on the question or how’s my relationship with my Dad - strained, nowadays. So it goes.
@pratik so sorry to hear this. You are dealing with a lot and this reaction cannot be easy to deal with. From what I have seen from your posts, you are an open, caring and love to share your thoughts. It is good you are sharing your experiences, it will help to address them mentally and move forward. We are all here for you 🙏🏽
