Sigh, my daughter has got to know of K-pop music, especially BTS and Blackpink. She never listened to them at home earlier. She isn’t always listening to the songs, but her friends do. So she, kind of, feels she needs to keep up. Is it bad that she feels pressured? Should I help?
@KimberlyHirsh @Simonwood I meant she feeling the pressure from her friends. And then trying to emulate just because they are?
@amit @KimberlyHirsh Ohhhh yes that makes sense. Hmmm that's tough. I think peer pressure is inevitable, especially this more subtle kind. The only thing I can think of is to provide the best support in which you help her develop her independence as well as an understanding that it's ok to feel the need to fit into the group.
It's a very difficult balance, that's for sure, and I assume a lot depends on her own behaviour and the person she is and is becoming. I can only think that the best thing for her family to do is to be available for support, and provide opportunities in which she can both develop her independence and feel confident that she can confide in whomever she would like to.
@amit @SimonWoods As peer pressure goes, feeling like you need to know K-pop to keep up with your friends is not too detrimental. I would say if she likes it, support that, and if she doesn't like it, see if she can find other common interests or ways to introduce the things she likes to her friends. I don't know her age but this is a pretty normal developmental experience. Happy to point you to some relevant developmental theory if you're interested.
@amit As far as being peer pressured into something (coz it's inevitable), K-pop ain't that bad 🙂 It was Minecraft for my son.
@SimonWoods Yeah, that's exactly what my thought was. Support her, not let the pressure kill her individuality. Keep her liking, but also be part of the group. It's tricky for sure though.
@KimberlyHirsh Yeah, I guess you are right. She doesn't fully like it, but she still wants to be aware. So she makes the effort. And am ok with that. Everything that helps her to feel connected. Thankfully, she does have a few friends who share her likings. So that's good.
I would be glad to go over any developmental theories (she's 10). It's a tricky phase.
@pratik Hah! Absolutely, I guess. But Minecraft ain't too bad either, is it? Far better than a few other games.
@amit In relative terms not bad at all. Just have to consider what else they could have been peer-pressured into.
@amit You're coming up on a big one! Recognizing that these theories are limited by the research populations they were developed on, they're still useful. I recommend starting with Piaget's stages of cognitive development, Erikson's stages of psychosocial development, and anything from the Search Institute.
