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@ablerism This is lovely. Reminds me a bit of something I was going to post from Ann Lamott’s Bird by Bird last night:
>I used to think that paired opposites were a given, that love was the opposite of hate, right the opposite of wrong. But now I think we sometimes buy into these concepts because it is so much easier to embrace absolutes than to suffer reality. I don’t think anything is the opposite of love. Reality is unforgivingly complex.
I got caught up trying to add a thought about how reality is forgively complex. Catton says it wonderfully.
Thanks for sharing!
@tinyroofnail I read once that the opposite of love is not hate but indifference. It stuck with me. Whether this is completely contrary to your point is another matter. :)
@dwalbert It’s quite true. In lieu of an essay, I’ll just say that I like both expressions and refuse to choose between them 🙃