@pratik @rcrackley I'm late to the conversation but want to echo Pratik's points, particularly where they intersect with the Micro.blog community guidelines. Building a resilient, thoughtful community includes agreeing that stress and discomfort will inevitably arise, particularly around the topics of systemic racism and white privilege, and the manner with which we address this stress and discomfort matters. Immediately invoking the community guidelines about perceived violations is not in this spirit. There are skills we can practice to fortify our community instead: We can sit with our discomfort, asking ourselves what exactly about the statement is upsetting to us. We can consider the lived experience of the person speaking, especially if they have an identity that has been historically targeted and marginalized. We can ask each other clarifying questions, if we think words have been misused — staying curious rather than getting defensive.

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@jasonekratz Agree about “bloody revolution” being politics too, except I was hoping we wouldn’t get there. I don’t think Andreessen-Horowitz just got this, but in light of DHH’s proclamations, at least we got them to explicitly and openly state that politics is essential to getting your way. Now they may have been already doing that in the shadows via PACs.

Re: my quote about Ben, I still don’t understand your point. It’s clear I was talking about him being a privileged (legacy/social capital) rich white man. I didn’t even think about his religion but yes, I would put an American privileged straight white rich Christian man at the top of the food chain. But unless Ben tells us more about how he is being misrepresented in this world, you and I can only guess. I don’t know about his family history and his Wikipedia entry is scant on details.

Re: NY resolutions, of course, people should do what’s best for their mental health, but some of us don’t have that privilege or the choice so I was just pointing it out. If they feel guilty about me pointing that out, well, I can’t dictate how they should feel.

2024-01-05 19:02

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@pratik @rcrackley I’m late to the conversation but want to echo Pratik’s points, particularly where they intersect with the Micro.blog community guidelines.

Building a resilient, thoughtful community includes agreeing that stress and discomfort will inevitably arise, particularly around the topics of systemic racism and white privilege, and the manner with which we address this stress and discomfort matters. Immediately invoking the community guidelines about perceived violations is not in this spirit.

There are skills we can practice to fortify our community instead: We can sit with our discomfort, asking ourselves what exactly about the statement is upsetting to us. We can consider the lived experience of the person speaking, especially if they have an identity that has been historically targeted and marginalized. We can ask each other clarifying questions, if we think words have been misused — staying curious rather than getting defensive.

2024-01-06 20:58

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