combatdavey
combatdavey

Being angry is the worst. I am angry right now and I hate it. It feels like poisonous syrup is coating my internal organs. It tastes like metal in my mouth. I will never understand people who like this feeling and court it. I’d pay thousands of dollars I barely have to not feel this way rn.

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scattershot
scattershot

@combatdavey Are there people that enjoy anger? Maybe they just delude themselves into thinking that they do. It's the lack of control that is both frustrating and humiliating at the same time that grinds my gears. It sucks that so many tech platforms deal in this sort of outrage brokering. As if offline day-to-day life couldn't be frustrating enough...

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combatdavey
combatdavey

@scattershot I can’t say for sure that there are people who actively enjoy being angry. But a lot of people certainly post like they enjoy being angry.

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scattershot
scattershot

@combatdavey very fair, definitely agree. Hoping you are able to have a somewhat relaxing evening!

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duncanhart
duncanhart

@combatdavey why are you angry? Are you ‘shoulding’ and ‘shouldn’ting’ ?

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combatdavey
combatdavey

@duncanhart The reason is way too personal to share here. But I’m doing my best to push through.

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duncanhart
duncanhart

@combatdavey in many cases I see it’s ‘shoulding’ and ‘shouldn’ting’ that’s the root of anger.

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Annie
Annie

@combatdavey I think for most people, anger is a cover emotion. Hiding some other emotion (like hurt, sadness, grief, guilt) that's even harder to acknowledge and bear. Anger isn't enjoyable maybe, but preferable... At least for a time.

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combatdavey
combatdavey

@Annie That feels right. For me it’s almost always covering up/standing in for sadness.

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davidmarsden
davidmarsden

@Annie as one of the five stages of grief, anger comes "after" denial and "before" bargaining, depression and acceptance. @combatdavey

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Annie
Annie

@combatdavey yep, same. I do think also that anger has some other important uses, at times—letting us know when injustice is happening or our boundaries are violated, for example. A flag of warning—pay attention here, something’s not right.

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Annie
Annie

@davidmarsden if only those stages would stay all neat and separated in reality!

@combatdavey

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davidmarsden
davidmarsden

@Annie yeah, reality tends to be messy! No wonder I can't find what I'm looking for. Hell, I can't even remember what it is. Ffs!

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combatdavey
combatdavey

@davidmarsden @Annie Definitely something to think about, but, anger also exists outside of its place in the grieving process. Sometimes it’s about grief, sometimes it isn’t. FWIW, today is a bit better.

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