@smokey Brilliant. Yes, "we don't do that here" is a brilliant way to draw the line. But notice that Aja says it needs to come from the thought leader. So many times I thought Manton just needed to draw the line, but like you said, his style is to be polite.

There was another gem in the last paragraph of that piece:

In the world I want to live in, we don’t have to set negative rules like “don’t harass people.” Instead, we could get by with positive guidelines like “be welcoming” and “be kind” and use our giant human brains to figure out how to apply those values to novel situations.

Many times, behind the scenes, I argued that some positive guidelines were needed, but I never won out with that point and finally had to give up. I'm just a little indian, not a chief or thought leader around here.