@hollie@social.coop @PixysJourney It's so crazy and inane that the societies I'm familiar with take the rainbow sphere of being a human (I bet there are loads of spikes coming out of that sphere too) and attempt to slice it into binary components. It's so arbitrary to declare that certain fabrics, styled in certain ways are 'female' or 'male' appropriate. And ditto for behaviours, attractions, interests — every aspect of human life. I know there are cultures that acknowledge and incorporate more than 2 genders. Mine is not one of them unfortunately. I think the whole notion of 'non-binary' is an excellent one. If that concept had been around when I was a kid in the 1950s and 60s I could imagine I might have adopted it. Now, as a 70 year old I know for sure I'm a woman, and that anything I do or wear or have an interest in is one of the many things that women do or say or have an interest in. I help to define what a 'woman' is; society does not get to tell me I'm not 'womanly'.

When I was about 13/14, I realized that I was/am attracted to people, not their gender... I know, this may sound weird, but that's how my then undiagnosed AuDHD brain called it... How a person is, and of course how they look to me, is what makes me attracted to them. So I always thought I was bisexual... So I used that when I talked about me and my sexuality...

But then, I learned more about myself. About the different sexual orientations...

And now, I'm wondering if I may be non-binary... I've been reading up about it a bit, trying to understand it better...

This is one of the things that I found online:
*The term “nonbinary” can mean different things to different people. Essentially, it’s used to describe someone whose gender identity can’t be described as exclusively woman or man.
Some people who are nonbinary experience their gender as both man and woman, and others experience their gender as neither man nor woman.
Nonbinary can also be used as an umbrella term, encompassing many gender identities that don’t fit into the man-woman binary.*

This came from the Healthline website. And well, I've never felt like a girly girl... I loved boys clothes, I loved boys toys, when I could I got very short hair... I am a woman with the bits and bops that go with it. But I've never felt like a proper one. I didn't do heels, dresses, or makeup. I don't really behave like a girl...

So that made me wonder if I could be non-binary instead?

I am wondering if my non-binary friends may be able to share a wee bit of why they identify as non-binary. Can it be "as simple" as not feeling like a girly girl when born as CIS woman? But also not feeling like I'm in the wrong body? 🤔

My autistic brain really struggles with this... I don't want to offend anyone, but I also want to know more about this, about me... If that makes sense...

Thanks in advance for sharing your thoughts! I really appreciate it!

2025-04-25 21:11

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@hollie @PixysJourney It’s so crazy and inane that the societies I’m familiar with take the rainbow sphere of being a human (I bet there are loads of spikes coming out of that sphere too) and attempt to slice it into binary components. It’s so arbitrary to declare that certain fabrics, styled in certain ways are ‘female’ or ‘male’ appropriate. And ditto for behaviours, attractions, interests — every aspect of human life. I know there are cultures that acknowledge and incorporate more than 2 genders. Mine is not one of them unfortunately. I think the whole notion of ‘non-binary’ is an excellent one. If that concept had been around when I was a kid in the 1950s and 60s I could imagine I might have adopted it. Now, as a 70 year old I know for sure I’m a woman, and that anything I do or wear or have an interest in is one of the many things that women do or say or have an interest in. I help to define what a ‘woman’ is; society does not get to tell me I’m not ‘womanly’.

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