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\nwhile you’re having a whole body jag
\nyou’ll succeed with this mother confidence
\nas a mother parting a crowd to reach the child
The neonate stage is a distinctive mix of emotional properties.
\nBoredom unbroken even by the offbeat strangeness across the pages of Joanna Ruocco’s Dan (perhaps muffled by circumstances already too strange, as I will note below shortly).
\nTugged at into giddiness by the child’s reflexive paroxysms:...
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\nalacritous latch
\nB in repose, having a nice family wind down
\ncute new noises from the neonatal
\nbrother got the booster
\nmom’s ease on the porch, sun drenched, listening to bird calls
\ncheezits on demand, thanks mom
\nwaste...
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\n\n\nThat’s all I could say: “I don’t know. I don’t know.” I was saying that over and over again until I said, “I don’t know, but I can’t do this alone.”
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\n\nIt was a moment of openness, of some surrender. I was so astounded that I started to cry and I thought, “I don’t know what that was about.”
\n
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